What do I want to change?
When we come to a point that is unsatisfying, making us angry, sad, depressed or afraid, we have different habits and behaviours to get out of this unpleasant feelings and situations. We withdraw, or use drugs, we blame others, or we get poorly and make us dependent upon others and expect them to safe us.
The only way to get out of this paralysing state, is to ask ourselves:
“What do I want to change?”
What could you change in a present life situation, that does not satisfy you?
Do you want to take the responsibility, the work and risk that it takes to change?
Maybe you will have to change habits.
Maybe you will have to get in confrontation with someone you love.
Maybe you will have to be alone for some time.
Maybe you will feel a lot.
Maybe you will have to go for your own opinion.
Maybe you will have less money for some time.
Maybe you will have to show and express your feelings and be honest.
Maybe you will have to pull yourself back.
‘What do I want to change?’ is a question, that can accompany and serve us our whole life.
Imagine a tree. There is nothing about it that should be different. And still it changes throughout the whole year. A tree that does not change is a dead tree.
Being perfect the way we are does not exclude that change is natural, possible and necessary.
What do you want to have different right now in your life? What could you change about it?