Which of my relationships are nurturing, which are poisoning?
What is the quality of your relationships?
Is the level of giving and taking in balance?
How is the verbal and physical ‘stroke- economy’ in your relationships?
How is it about acceptance, tolerance and communication in your relationships?
How about your confines, can you communicate them someone you’re having problems with?
How is it about your flexibility to make compromises?
Thinking about your relationships you may find out that there are some of them which are poisoning you.
We don’t lead poisonous relationships for nothing, or just to punish ourselves- we can learn and grow in every relationship. We can change their quality if we want to.
A good way to establish clarity in our relationships is to say what we need, want and feel and give the other the room to do the same.
Be honest to yourself.
Stay curious about how the other one feels and reacts towards your openness.
Stay open and tolerant in the relationships that you have and that you want to keep.
If a relationship is troublesome, sit together or visualise sitting together and ask the other person what she/he would need from you. Then tell her/him your own needs.